Has It Been A While Since The Loss of A Loved One?

Do You Feel That You Should Be Ok By Now?

I Can Help You Get Back To Your Normal Self

What is Grief?

Grief is a completely natural human response to losing someone close to you or even something important to you.  Grief tends to be more intense when the relationship was more significant.  Just understanding what grief is and what you’re going through might be a comfort as it can feel like nothing makes sense anymore and your whole world has been turned upside down.

You may experience some unexpected emotions such as shock and anger as well as emotions such as disbelief, guilt and sadness.  The pain you experience during grief can disrupt your emotional as well as physical health.  You may stop sleeping well, may lose your appetite and may even struggle to concentrate.  These again can be normal reactions to a significant loss but there are some ways in which you can cope.

Symptoms of Grief

What Can You Suggest To Help Me Cope?

  • 1

    Acknowledge your pain.

    This might seem a silly suggestion, but surprisingly a lot of people, maybe not consciously, choose to ignore the pain they are experiencing in the hope that it will just go away. This rarely works, so start by acknowledging the pain you’re in.

  • 2

    Understand that your grieving process will be unique to you

    There is no right or wrong way to grieve. There is also no timeframe for how long your grief will last. It is important however, that you are patient with yourself and allow the grieving process to occur naturally. If you think about having a major trauma, such as a road accident, you would expect your body to need plenty of time to heal. The mind is no different and grief is a major traumatic event.

  • 3

    Accept that grief can trigger many different and unexpected emotions

    It can feel like you’re losing your mind after the loss of a loved one. You can feel fine one minute and then be really angry the next. Basically you are likely to experience a whole range of emotions but its important to remember that this is an normal and natural part of grieving. Allow yourself to feel the emotions as they surface. By doing this and accepting the feelings you are preventing the feelings from building up inside of you. Maybe expressing your emotions in a way that you feel comfortable may help. This could be something creative such as writing a journal, writing letters or creating a photo album.

  • 4

    Maintain your physical health

    Your emotional and physical health are connected so when you exercise, eat well and get enough sleep it can help to reduce your stress levels. Trying to maintain some routine and your usual weekly hobbies or interests can help.

But What If I’m Still Struggling After All Those Suggestions And Its Getting Too Much?

Now Might Be The Time To Speak To A Professional.

Occasionally you can get stuck in the grief cycle and need professional help to come through it. There is no set rule, but if the difficult emotions you experience don’t reduce or ease over time it is worth speaking to bereavement counsellor and that’s where I can help.

So How Can I Help You?

I can help with the following:

  1. I can help you acknowledge the pain you are experiencing.
  2. I can help you express your emotions.
  3. I can help by being an independent non-judgmental listener.
  4. I can help by listening to what you're going through.
  5. I can help by providing the quiet, calm environment away from the stresses of daily life to help you work through your grief.

I won’t be able to stop you missing your loved one but I can help you process your emotions and help you function in a healthier way.  Loosing someone close to you is always going to be extremely difficult and no one can stop the pain.  With my professional help however, slowly those intense emotions will gradually subside and you may start to smile or even laugh at happy memories.  The pain may still be there but eventually you will get to a point when you can look to the future with some optimism.

But Can’t I Just Be ‘Strong’ And Get Through This Without The Need Of Professional Help?

If you are reading this, then the short answer is no.  It’s very unlikely and you may prolong your grief.  Many people, men in particular, feel that bottling up their emotions is the best way to deal with emotional difficulty.  Having upsetting feelings however, is a normal reaction to a loss.  Crying doesn’t mean that you are weak.  You may feel that you need to protect your family or friends by putting on a brave face.  However, showing your true feelings will actually help you and may even help those around you.  Someone once told me that crying isn’t the pain of the loss, it is the recovery from the pain.

Okay, I Need Help.  What Do I Do Now?

All you need to do is send me an email using the form below or text me on 07935 566 085

and I will do the rest.

 

 After that I will contact you within 48 hours.

I will arrange with you a time where I can give you a quick call to ask a few short questions.

After that all that will be left is to arrange the free initial meeting.

The initial meeting just gives you a chance to meet me and see if you feel comfortable working together.

After that the choice is yours.

Sessions usually take place on a weekly basis and are charged at £40 per session.

A Big Step!

Getting help can be a big step.  If you are still a bit unsure or have any questions, send me an enquiry anyway - it's free!!! Click here to visit my Testimonial page and read about the experiences of some of my previous clients.

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